Have you ever wondered how some people just seem to get everything they want in life … or maybe you’ve noticed the opposite and you see people that don’t get what they say they want very often at all.
What results do you usually achieve in your life?
Do more opportunities come your way or do more problems present themselves?
Many years ago, I learned some life skills from Robert Kiyosaki (best selling author of Rich Dad Poor Dad). In his organization, several systems were set up to get feedback from staff and participants. One I remember very clearly and have used ever since I first heard it …
If you have a problem, always present a possible solution before you make the complaint.
Now, I have adapted this system and applied it to my interactions in life. Using this system gives me more power to co-create a solution with the person or organization I have the problem with. Instead of hearing me whine and complain, it comes across as feedback with a possible resolution … a much easier way for me to be heard and to get what I ultimately want.
The “law of attraction” (which is such a trendy topic these days since the release of the hit movie “The Secret”) would state it another way. What you concentrate on, is what you will attract to you. So doesn’t it make sense to focus on the SOLUTIONS rather than on the problems.
Acknowledge Your Way To Success
There is another profound saying that applies here as well …
The secret to getting what you want, is the WANT what you have!
I was shopping in a supermarket several months ago and a mistake was made and a bag of groceries was lost. When I made the phone call to notify the Service Desk of the mistake, I began by thanking them for having a customer service section so I could notify them in the first place … well, what a great start to a conversation … I then had so many other reasons to thank them after that one simple acknowledgement … the friendliness of the person taking the call … a personal phone call from the owner of the store to thank me … a solution to collect a further $36 worth of groceries to show their appreciation. Funny thing is, I’ve actually never collected that $36 worth of groceries. I didn’t need to. Their thanks was enough. And how did it all start … with me saying thank you for the service they provided to help create resolutions in the first place.
I use this same acknowledgement system in as many places as I can. It works a treat when I speak with children … it’s just as easy to say to a child, “I really like how your room looks when it’s clean” or, “you are so great at helping around the house” as it is to tell them what to do.
Making an acknowledgement puts the responsibility back on the person to live up to your acknowledgement of them or not. I have only ever used this in a genuine way yet I’m sure acknowledgements could be misused too. If the intention if just to get what you want, I suspect the person will detect that and be more reluctant to comply. But my intention is to draw out the best in the other person.
This is just something simple that I have learned along my path of life. I have been blessed to have been given this key many years ago. I am delighted with the results I get from other people when I use acknowledgement in my communication with them. But the most satisfying feeling comes from inside. A feeling that I know I am demonstrating a way of living that is better than the one I used before.
So, I wonder who there is in your life you’d like to acknowledge today. I’d suggest you start with yourself. Get comfortable telling yourself how great you are. Get accustomed to appreciating how far you’ve come. The more confident you are in your own self worth, the more you are able to share it with others.
Hey, by the way, I think you’re fabulous, just for being here.
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