My parents taught me all sorts of things, but these are some of the values I cherish the most.
I appreciate so many of the things my mother taught me by demonstration as well as words. One was to never gossip. I think ours was a very rare family indeed. Mum would say, if you can’t say something nice about someone – don’t say anything at all.
Love And Forgive
She also showed an incredible ability to love and forgive despite being in a situation that some would consider to be psychologically abusive. My parents were married more than 70 years (quite a milestone these days) and I highly value the commitment and example she has set for her family and for the strong values she taught me.
Think For Yourself
My dad taught me to be true to myself … to not follow the crowd, to think before I speak and to use my common sense.
Leave Things As You Find Them
He also taught me to leave things as I find them, the example being is if you find a gate shut, shut it again after you have gone through. I take this to an even higher level these days and like to leave things BETTER than I find them. I pick up rubbish on the street or do someone’s dishes that are piled up in their sink. I even leave public toilets cleaner for the next person who comes along and pull out weeds in public gardens. I’ve got into such a habit I don’t even need to think about it any more.
Treat Others As You Would Like To Be Treated Yourself
Treat people as you would like to be treated yourself …. is what my mum told me. If you like to receive love, give love . If you value peace, leave others in peace.
Share Good News
There is no investment you’ll ever make that pays as well as the effort to spread good humour and a cheerful smile wherever you go.
Pay A Compliment
I’ve not met anyone who didn’t respond well to acknowledgment, encouragement and upliftment.
Believe In Their Abilities
“If you treat an individual as if they were what they ought to be and could be, they will become what they ought to be and could be.” – Author Unknown.
I treat even the people who annoy me the most in the best way I can, not because THEY deserve it, but because it makes ME feel good to do so!
Trust Them To Work Things Out For Themselves
But most of all I like to treat people with faith they can work things out for themselves. We’ve all been given the same instincts that tell us profoundly if something feels ‘good’ or if it feels ‘off’. Statements like, “I know you can do it” and “you’ve worked things out before” do so much more to promote wellbeing than sympathy and feeling sorry for them.
Instead of fostering dependence, I hold the space for them to be totally, completely and utterly self sufficient. – Elizabeth Richardson